We give the people around us far too much power over us.
Although many of us may say that “we don’t care what other people think”, we still do. It’s hard not to give thought as to what other people may think of us. People are all around us, and even the act of trying not to care about what other people think of you… is allowing you to care about what they think of you. It’s a vicious cycle.
Although you cannot get rid of the people in your life (try as you may), there are ways that you can break free of the chains that you may feel that come from caring too much of what the people around you may think of you.
Today we look at how you can stop giving others so much permission and power in your life.
Make your Own Decisions
Doing what you really want to do is easy when you feel that your actions don’t affect anyone else.
For those who live life liberated from the thoughts and concerns of other people, doing whatever it is that they want whenever they want requires very little effort. They want to do something… so they just do it. I don’t know about you, but for years I always watched these kinds of people, the ones who simply just do, and would frustrate myself as to why I couldn’t be more like them. Free from caring what others think. A doer.
The secret to being a doer is this: make your own decisions. Decide what you want to do and go about it. You cannot decide how other people will respond to what you do, so stop trying to make everyone around you feel a certain way about you and what you are trying to do.
If you keep trying to make everyone happy all the time --it’s a recipe to making yourself miserable.
You Don’t Need Validation
Don’t expect to get a pat on the back from everyone. It’s just not going to happen.
This may come as a shock, but not everyone is going to love whatever it is that you decide to do. People are busy focusing on taking care of themselves, and while you are doing the same thing, you just might step on somebody’s toes. If you aren’t being intentionally disrespectful to someone else’s journey, you are not doing anything wrong.
Let go of trying to always do the “right thing” for everyone. Not everyone needs to be okay with what you are trying to achieve.
Be Firm in Your Choosing
Set your mind to your goal, align your efforts accordingly and make it happen.
If the people around you are not supportive after you have shared with them your truth, then perhaps those are the kinds of people you should not have around you.
Stand firm, and keep moving towards your goal at all costs. If you really want it –go for it.
Be Ready to Live with Your Conclusion
If you have lived your whole life giving other people power and seeking their permission, it certainly will ruffle some feathers when you stop this behavior.
Standing firm for yourself begins when you stop asking for permission and place your own goals and joy as a priority. Your circle of loved ones should respond as being supportive, and the ones who just want to keep you underneath them will leave. Let these kinds of negative people make their exit, and let their absence be filled with joy and empowerment.
It starts with a decision, and you don’t need any more permission to make it than to simply say “Today is the day.”